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6 Common Adoption Questions

By Sarah Stewart Legal Group

When you are looking to grow your family through adoption, it is an exciting, yet nervous time.  Though some people adopt through family relationships- stepparents, grandparents, etc., that is not always the case.

If you are looking to adopt, below are answers to some of the most common questions we’re asked about adoption.

(1) How Do I Adopt?

The first adoption option is through agencies.  Agency adoptions include private and public agencies.  Oklahoma’s public agency is the Department of Human Services.  Private agencies are available throughout the U.S. and Internationally.  If you are using a private agency, be sure it is a reputable one that you or someone you know is familiar with.

Another option is independent adoption. These adoptions are generally facilitated through attorneys, other professionals, or the pregnant woman herself.  Independent adoptions in Oklahoma have the greatest potential for abuse, as biological mothers can revoke consent to adoption any time before they have given consent in court to a Judge, or their rights have been legally terminated.

(2) What Children Are Available for Adoption?

Many different kinds of children are available for adoption.  They come from all different backgrounds, races, nationalities, and religions.  Children can be adopted from the U.S. or internationally.

(3) How Long Does it Take?

The longest part of the process is finding your child.  Waiting times for placements vary depending on your specific interests and qualifications.  Public agencies adopt out children whose parents’ rights have been terminated.  Since their goal is reunification with the family, that generally means they have more older children available.  Private agencies generally allow the biological parent to choose the adopting parent, so you are subject to the likes and dislikes of the parents.

Once you find your child, the legal process in Oklahoma can take 3 months to 1 year, depending on the status of the adoptive child’s parents and the likelihood the biological parents will fight the case.

(4) How Much Does it Cost?

Costs vary depending on the placement used for adopting your child.  Public agencies tend to cost less, and usually cover adoption expenses.  So, public agency adoptions range from 0 – about $2,000.

Private agencies range from $4,000 – $30,000 depending on the agency and services.

Independent adoptions are hard to pinpoint.  In Oklahoma, adoptive parents can help with some expenses of the biological mother.  The biological mother will also need to have an independent attorney hired for her.  So, you are looking at a range of about $5,000 – $30,000 or more, depending on your contract with the biological mother and court costs and attorney fees.

International adoptions can cost $8,000 – $30,000 or more.

(5) What if I’m Single?

Oklahoma laws allow single people over the age of 21 to adopt children.

(6) What Information Will I Give?

You will have to pass a background check and a home study.  Throughout this process, they will check for criminal records, learn about your family history and background, talk about your motivation and expectations for adoption, learn about your family environment and parenting style, and check your physical, employment, and health history.

 

6 Financial Tips for New (or Expecting) Parents

By Sarah Stewart Legal Group

Did you know the average cost of raising a child to adulthood in the U.S., according to 2015 statistics, is estimated to be $230,000?  This does not include extras like private school or college education. This is just the bare-bone basics.  Shocking, I know!

So, what are some tips experienced parents have to help new and expecting parents save and budget their money? Here are 6 tried-and-true tips!

(1) Plan for Formula and Diapers, and Then Budget More

Keep in mind the average child is not potty-trained until 3 years old.  Yep, you read that right. Three.  That’s a lot of dirty diapers to change!  And newborns are expected to have at least 6 dirty diapers a day!  So, budget for those added diaper expenses.

Also, prepare as though you will buy formula.  Most mothers intend to breastfeed as long as possible.  But, in reality, some mothers are unable to breastfeed at all, and others may find the task too difficult when returning to work.  That may be because their employer doesn’t offer an adequate space, or because they are physically drained from constant feeding and pumping.

Whatever the reason, you may need formula sooner than you think.  So budget for it from the start.

(2) Subscription Services

There are several subscription services available to new parents.  These subscriptions usually come with some great savings.  Amazon has Subscribe and Save, there’s also diapers.com, and other subscription services to explore based on your family’s needs.  Check them out!

(3) Don’t Budget too Much on Toys

The truth is, most younger children do not play with many toys, or get bored easily with their toys.  Consider establishing a 529 College plan instead of having a toy budget.  Family and friends can contribute to the fund directly.

Other great “investments” for baby’s birthday include clothes, diapers, and books.

(4) Get Involved in Your Local Community

Local libraries are a great way to get social interaction for your children for free or low cost.  Also, check out local playgroups and mom communities.  Many are easily accessible online through Facebook or Meetup.com.

(5) Don’t Forget Those Extra Weeks

We all know a year is made up of 52 weeks.  But, sometimes we forget those sneaky extra weeks.  Those extra weeks can make your child’s needs, like daycare, more expensive.  Be sure to remember and account for them in your budget.

(6) Check Out Consignment and Other Second-Hand Shops

Let’s be honest.  Most babies hardly wear their clothes before they grow out of them in the first year.  Don’t be afraid of second-hand items.  They’re great deals!

The Oklahoma City Metro has wonderful consignment options.  There are brick and mortar buildings, like Once Upon a Time and Storkland.  There are also many mom clothing exchanges throughout the year and throughout the metro, such as Just Between Friends and Moms of Multiples, just to name a few.

Keep an eye out and talk to Mom friends to find the best bargains for your baby!

The best resource for any new parent is the knowledge and support of other parents.  Reach out to your tribe, or find one for yourself, and heed their sage advice!

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